6 Mindful Habits To Stop Your Worrying and Start Loving Yourself
1. Stop criticizing yourself.
If you keep looking at what you are missing, you’ll never be happy. You will just keep looking forever. What you have now is more than enough.
You just need to start to appreciate yourself, and let yourself know you are enough. Whenever the negative voice comes on, listen but don’t react. Don’t interact with the voice, or try replacing a negative with a positive.
When the voice puts you down, saying, “I love you” to yourself can be a very powerful thing.
2. Don’t take your thoughts seriously.
The voice inside your head is repetitive, loud, habitual, negative, and involuntary, to say the least.
Take the seat as a spectator, and see your thoughts without listening to them. When you see it as noise, you no longer have to take it seriously, or as the truth.
If you feel like the voice is becoming loud, say to yourself, “I won’t take my thoughts so seriously anymore.” Make it a habit to say this, so you can ingrain this behavior into yourself.
3. Be kind to yourself.
You deserve your own love. You are always with yourself, wherever you go; why go in anger, sadness, or frustration?
It took me a long while to practice this. I was critical of myself, judgmental, and negative. It was awful and it almost made me almost hate myself. I was my own worst critic. I realized being hurtful to myself isn’t going to help me in any way.
Treat yourself with kindness. Even a little can make a huge difference.
4. Just be.
Stop trying to be so comfortable all the time. Stop trying to control everything, including your emotions. If you are uncomfortable, then be uncomfortable. Just be, however you are feeling at that moment.
It takes a great deal of effort to try, be, and feel something that you aren’t. You are masking your own happiness with this effort.
It’s been said everywhere that those that try to find happiness don’t. Why? It’s because they’re trying. Happiness doesn’t come from trying. It comes from being.
If there is sadness, then be sad. If there is anger, then be angry. Stay mindful that it is just an emotion, and you don’t associate who you are with your emotions.
If you are feeling sadness, it doesn’t mean that you as a person are defined by the sadness. It is just an emotion passing by. When you begin to watch the sadness, you are no longer engulfed by it. It gives you enough space for the sadness to pass, and feel liberated.
Happiness is effortless. It comes when you’re not trying to stuff it inside your pocket.
Meditation will help you dissolve your voice. It will allow you to be more mindful of your breath and yourself and allow you to love yourself more. Meditate every single day for the greatest benefits possible, even if it’s for two minutes at a time.
Meditation was what taught me to slow down the voice and helped me become aware of its habitual patterns. It’s allowed me to focus on what matters.
It’s really that beautiful, and a transformative process that is felt rather than spoken about.
You can always come back to your breath no matter where you are. The breath is always there, but sometimes we forget about it. Usually this happens when the mind is becoming too loud.
Focus on your inhale coming up, and let go of your exhale. Focus on the pause until your next breath. Keep on repeating this simple process of watching the breath come and go, as it naturally does.
If your voice is becoming too much, just focus on your breath and that voice will begin to quiet down.
Give each habit a fair try, and see which works for you. By applying a habit each day, it becomes a part of what you do. You become a part of the habit, and being mindful becomes habitual.
Choose one habit you want to practice and write it down. On paper, on your phone, take a picture of it, tell your friends, always have a constant reminder of it. The more you ingrain it, the more mindful you can be of the habit.
Reprinted from www.tinybuddha.com